Men's Health - Healing The Divine Masculine

It is a sad state of affairs what the modern feminism has done to the Divine Masculine. This article is about how men can find support and healing in modern times and ask for help.

I felt called to write from my heart and this is the topic I want to address today. So, please read through it - we can all only improve the world when we care about each other's well-being deeply. 

I am dedicating this to men's emotional and mental well-being. Proudly. 

It is a sad state of affairs to see how deeply the collective masculine is hurting in modern times. What's worse is that the modern day 'feminism' has done more harm than good - it is hurting both the feminine and the masculine; it has put the feminine in more of masculine roles and masculine energy, while forcing the men to be suppressed to more of the feminine energy.

This article is exclusively dedicated to raising awareness about men's health...

-most men feel reduced to being just the providers in the family - paying for the bills, the kids' education, the mortgage, and so on and but otherwise left alone without any appreciation, love, respect and kindness.

-most men have never shared or opened up even to their wives or partners about their trauma, sexual abuse, childhood wounds, etc. because they simply do not feel emotionally connected or feel heard in their relationship with their spouse or partner.

-it makes me very sad when I hear some men tell me that they have had to sit and cry alone - all by themselves because they had NO one in their life who could give them that comfort and safe space to pour their heart out and cry! Very sad state of affairs - no one should have to cry alone!

-men are told to 'toughen up' or 'be strong' or 'be a man!', etc. and because this has been the narrative in all societies till today, men are 'trained' since childhood to never show their emotions, to stuff their sadness, loneliness, fears, depression, anxiety and to never talk about it to anyone!

-did you know that men die by suicide 3 to 4 times more often than females?

While we cannot solve all the problems today when it comes to men's health and well-being, here are a few helpful tips that might help those who are going through extreme periods of stress, loneliness and depression and need someone to talk to.

Men - Opening Up & Finding Your Safe Space in Somebody - 

I am not going to write "connect to Nature, etc. etc.." No. While that is all very helpful and we all know that by now, the truth is we all are human beings and we need to share our stories - we need to talk to someone. Once that trauma comes out, we feel lighter, we feel loved, heard and accepted and we show up very differently in the world then.

When we talk, we take away our guilt and shame - two of the heaviest feelings to hold so my intention is really to encourage men to find someone in their lives and talk to someone about their painful points and allow the gift of healing and lightness to take place in your life. 

Helpful Tips for Men's Emotional & Mental Well-Being -

-talk to someone who you trust, who knows how to hold heavy discussions with dignity and is a mature human being. This person should be very trustworthy because there is nothing worse than sharing your trauma or deepest, darkest secrets only to find out that the whole town knows about it by morning! 

-talk to someone who already has awareness of issues like sexual abuse, incest, emotional and physical abuse, etc. Yes - everyone 'knows' about them but very few understand these issues on psycho-emotional levels and the impact they carry on the victim and therefore, very few know how to handle such heavy, deep conversations with utmost dignity. So, plz. choose wisely!

-talk to someone who can support you, show you the Light at the end of the tunnel and lift you up when you are dealing with heavy emotions and need some support.

-make sure that as you narrate your past, it is NOT OK that you are belittled, mocked or laughed at your pain, or that you experience name calling or that you are berated in anyway.

-the biggest gift we can give to another and especially, as women to any man is deep acceptance. Deep acceptance does NOT mean that one has to agree with what the other person has done or not done in the past, but it does mean that irrespective of it all, you still care, show up, and hold the other person with the same respect and dignity - even after the narrative is over. You will not turn cold on them, judge them, berate them, belittle them or cut them off completely the next morning!. 

-creating a safe space is THE biggest gift we can give to anyone - esp. the men in our lives. A 'safe space' feels like one in which we are accepted as who we are - with all our flaws and mistakes, we can talk about things we would dare not mention to anyone else otherwise and we feel heard and accepted. A 'safe space' is the ultimate aura of trust and deep healing. A safe space is one where there is no shame or guilt in sharing your deepest, darkest secrets.

Can you offer this to somebody today?

-On the other hand, if somebody has offered you a safe space - you will know it by the way it feels and that is your person who you can talk to, cry your tears out and who can help you with sharing your narratives. 

"Shame dies when stories are told in a safe places" - Ann Voskamp, Canadian Author.

"A respectful communicator will always create a safe space for others to be heard" - Brian McGill, American Author.

​End Note to All the Dear Men Reading This -

Don't give in to the toxic monsters in this world and to the negative narratives that don't serve you - you deserve better. You deserve love, kindness, compassion, warmth, someone to listen to your stories and most of all, you deserve respect and appreciation for all that you do - for your families, communities, and the world at large. 

Most of all, I hope you love and continue to find yourself.  ❤️

I hope you feel better today.

-Somyata

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