Healthy Masculine & Feminine Energy

When our energies are wounded or unbalanced, we create a toxic relationship with our partners. What are the traits of a healthy masculine and feminine energy? Find out in this article. 

All this new nonsense called 'modern feminism' is killing us in our intimate relationships - it has made women as monsters and men as stoic and closed-off as possible..!

We need to go back to the basics and learn from our grandparents and ancestors on how they carried themselves in relationships - it worked and it had a level of elegance, respect, dignity and appreciation that is missing in many relationships today.

In a loving relationship, men are in a healthy masculine energy where they love to provide, show-up, protect and give to their feminine counterpart.

In a loving relationship, women are in a healthy feminine energy where they love to receive, love to get taken care of and where they also love to care, nurture and support their man.

Let's look in this article at what are the traits of healthy masculine and feminine energy and how it really plays out in real life. 

Healthy Masculine Energy Traits - 

Men need to feel respected, heard, seen, trusted, appreciated and loved in an intimate relationship.

Masculine energy is -

-logical, action-taker, strong, active, expansive, adventurous

-pursuer, giving, protective, provider, sets boundaries

-firm, loyal, confident, responsible, focused, decisive

-high integrity, honest, grounded, humble, reliable

-courageous, risk-taker, capable, assertive, leads (direction)

-loving, stable, secure, kind, gentle, patient, non-judgmental, accepting

-mind and heart are connected and integrated in a healthy masculine

Healthy Feminine Energy Traits - 

Women need to feel safe, desired, secure, reassured, protected, trusted and loved in an intimate relationship.

Feminine energy is -

-wild, playful, expressive, creative, flowing, fertile 

-intuitive, free, receptive, flexible, passive

-allows surrender, ease, stillness, flow, relaxed

-honest, warm, welcoming, forgiving, has strong boundaries

-emotional, loving, healing, nurturing, feeling, vulnerable, patient

-gentle, patient, compassionate, wise, unconditional love and support, kind, non-judgmental, accepting

-wise, spiritual, virtuous, abundant, honest (speaks her truth), trusting, supportive and empathetic

How Do These Traits Play Out in a Relationship? - 

In a loving relationship, masculine men are allowed to open-up and be vulnerable (and not shamed for it) and feminine women are happy to nurture and care for their men allowing him to just be. When this important element is taken off from the relationship's dynamics, relationships suffer and become dry and wry.

In a loving, balanced relationship, men love to show-up and provide for their feminine counterparts while the women love to receive all that care and love from their masculine counterparts. 

Let's look at some examples below and that will make it more clear how in real life these traits are observed and how they play out between the masculine and the feminine.

Healthy Masculine Energy in Relationships -

For example, when out on a date, it is HIGHLY impressive when a man rushes ahead of you (the feminine) to get to the car door so that he can open it for her - this shows a healthy masculine trait. Got to say that this is highly impressive that he still remembers good ole' values and does them!

-men to open car doors for the females when going out on dates or anywhere.

-men opening doors at the malls, etc. for females

-men paying when on dates

-men doing the chase for the women they want

-men expressing their feeling first (rather than the women)

-men traveling to the woman's place/city first (women should never travel to men's place first - this is HIGHLY toxic advice! - women need to be aware of who they talk to and who is giving them this kind of toxic advice)

-men initiating the first kiss and the first sexual intimacy moment

-men proposing and ultimately leading the union to oneness

-men being great providers as husbands and fathers

-men earning the bread and caring for the whole family (even if the woman is also earning)

-men being loyal, committed and honest in their relationship

-men giving more in the bedroom than the woman and thus, not being takers or selfish

Healthy Feminine Energy in Relationship -

Likewise, women need to learn to relax and lay back a little in romantic relationships to allow the MEN to take charge - if a man can't lead, pursue or reach you, you are ultimately looking at a very toxic dynamic.

This means...

-letting the man pursue her (and you NOT chasing him!) - again, beware of who your 'female friends' are and who you are taking advice from! Too many women do not know about healthy feminine energy and they WILL give you the worst and most toxic advice...EVER! thus jeopardizing your chances to be with a healthy masculine man.

-giving opportunities to her man to show love, show admiration, take compliments from him, to show his feelings, to open his heart space and allow him to shower you with love in and outside the bedroom..!

Sit back and relax - let him lead and let him show you that he is worthy of YOU - the divine feminine.

-give him opportunities to - open the car door, to pay for dates, to show his capabilities and talents (fixing household things, taking care of chores, car issues, helping with pets/children, etc.).

-ease into your feminine energy and appreciate all he does - say 'thanks' when he opens the car door but....let HIM do it and receive. Always appreciate him. Always.

-true feminine energy is soft, kind, nurturing and understanding - allow him to be vulnerable when he is alone with you and give him safe space to speak from his heart to you. Never degrade or insult him for crying or speaking about things that have hurt him.

-let him be the first to make the first sexual move when dating.

-let him give you more and take care of you in the bedroom while you happily relax into your feminine energy and receive his love. 

End Note -

-Healthy feminine, high-value women know when and how to give their men a chance to shine and show his capabilities; the divine feminine knows when to sit back and relax and let the man lead.

By doing this, you are helping him rise to what is called in spiritual terms as the Divine Masculine.

-A healthy, highly spiritual, highly vibrational feminine will be THE one to help her man rise from the wounded masculine energy to the divine masculine energy.

-In Western spirituality, it is said that her presence alone in his life is enough to be a catalyst for his change (for the better - to become Divine Masculine).

-A healthy, highly spiritual, high vibrational masculine will be THE one who leads, pursues her and makes her feel safe, loved, protected and supported - a Divine Masculine is considered to be in spiritual terms the man who rises from his fears, insecurities, wounds to ultimate wholeness to bring the union to ONEness. 💖

-Somyata