How to Help Your Partner During Tough Times

This article shares tips on easy and effective ways to support your partner during hard times. These tips will help you shine in a relationship while helping your partner feel loved.

Relationships are not just about 'fun times' or 'mind-blowing sex'. Unfortunately, in a world where sex is overused and overrated, most people don't understand this and then they wonder why all their relationships are failing and continue to fail one after the another.

To create a strong, rock-solid healthy relationship, it requires -

-space and freedom to allow each other to be

-time and distance (having individual hobbies, passions, etc. - time away from each other)

-trust, care and respect - even during disagreements

-and showing up 1000% for each other during the dull, not-so-exciting mundane as well as the tough days of life...making this part of your relationship the center focus and getting this part right before worrying about whether 'the sex will be bombastic with this person', just because you find them very attractive or because they have a great body - no; that will not work.

When one partner is struggling and the other one chooses to continuously make time for them, nothing is more beautiful or sacred than this between the two people and nothing can come between such a strong bond and a loving relationship - it takes maturity, 'staying power' (you must be willing to show up no matter how hard it gets for you) and dedication plus willingness.

Nothing is more beautiful in this world than heart-centered connection between two people where mindfulness, care, respect, love and understanding exists at-all-times, where showing-up and being present are the norm and bailing out on each other is NOT an option - this is the key to a strong, rock-solid stable relationship - without it, nothing exists.

Here are 3 tips to help you support your lover during the tough times -these tips are easy to implement, create lasting results where the partner  feels the warmth of your actions and continues to feel loved and supported throughout the tough days. 

Tip 1 - Be There Fully Present for Your Partner

Being mindful and fully present means that when your partner wants to talk, you just listen to them without any judgements or advice - unless asked. Just giving someone a listening ear when they are struggling.

When we give someone a chance to voice their thoughts that are heavy and troubling them, we give them one of the best gifts ever - that of our time and support. So, just be there when your partner wants to talk - it is as simple as that and this is one of the best ways to show up for someone you deeply care about. 

Tip 2 - Do Small 'Special' Gestures of Love to Show Support 

For the person going through tough times, it can feel like a struggle to take care of themselves let alone take care of others. During times of struggle like loss of a loved one, loss of a beloved pet, a health crisis, family politics and fights, loss of a job or a business and so on, our minds and bodies feel heavy due to heavy emotions like depression, anxiety, fear, worry, sadness, etc.

We feel tired during times like these and so no gesture of kindness is too small and no gesture is better than lending your hand when it comes to daily chores and responsibilities - this could mean picking up and throwing the garbage, cooking a special meal for your partner or just helping out with meal preparation each day, helping with pets or children, cleaning the home or vacuuming or washing dishes, getting laundry done for the family and this could include your partner's laundry or kids or pets laundry, taking care of the cars and so on....whatever you give, give with your heart and happiness. 

Tip 3 - Use Sensual Intimacy to Your Advantage

Make time this week for your special someone with some warm oils, sensual music and bubble bath. This goes even further when your lover is struggling and going through hard times - it is YOU that your partner needs the most so make time for him or her.

Bubble baths are a great way to spend time with your partner while helping them to relax - as the warm water touches both of your bodies and deeply relaxes you and your partner, holding your partner in a warm tight loving embrace and being able to relax them are keys to opening your partner up and allowing them to talk about their struggles, emotions, loss, etc. or simply just allowing them to cry - thus giving them the space to take off their mask and to just be; nothing is more beautiful than this.

-Somyata

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