Broken Home, Sexual Abuse, Obesity & Cancer

Disease is a manifestation of painful emotions & trauma. This article sheds light on issues like sexual abuse, childhood trauma, etc to help you and allow healing.

Stress has been called the death epidemic of the 21st century. That means that most of the humans in the present day world are so stressed out that they are dying from it - either they themselves are killing their body slowly by slowly or they have some chronic disease that is too much, too late to heal.

A motive to change the current health paradigm has got me thinking I should write more and more about such dark topics - to suddenly wake people up and get them to think; Was it my sexual abuse that happened decades ago the reason I put on 200 lbs?. or is it my broken home, broken childhood, matched with completely wrong parents that has caused me this cancer? 

With that said, lets begin the deeper narrative. Shall we?
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Which friend should go first?

"I should go first," said Cancer childishly.

"No silly! You can't go first if the patient doesn't even have a home! So, I should go first." said Broken Home.

"Hmmm...makes sense. After all, dysfunctional parents, that are no good to the child should be necessary for all these conditions to be met later.." said Obesity.

"OK, this sounds good. I will go after you." said Sexual Abuse.
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                                                 Welcome! Broken Home!

Broken Home was like a shattered glass - no matter where you step, you are going to bleed. And it will mark scars all over your feet - so as you travel this journey, the images of Broken Home will also travel with you.

Broken Home is your lost childhood - thanks to the courtesy of your immature parents or whoever. It consisted either of one or two highly dysfunctional, selfish people - people who only cared about themselves and their social image but did not care much about the child. 

A father who was/is a child stuck in a man's body; a mother who is his puppet show - a useless woman in the child's life who never shows up or speaks up when needed. Both have a sick, dysfunctional dance that they play through the child's life. What is this dance? Manipulation.

Manipulative parents will do anything to keep their social image alive and they know, when in front of relatives or others, how to hide the truth and show that it is the child who is the problem and not them. Emotional manipulation is the worst - it is silent yet the effects are detrimental on the growing child. 

Maybe you were raised in foster homes or passed around from one relative to another due to absent parents. Yearning for a place to call your own "home" and craving stability but yet not getting it, is a lot to handle for a young mind. 

Whatever happens in Broken Home, stays an image forever - printed into your psyche like a blade carved out on a rock. The rock has been blown here and there by the winds of fate and shaped by the hurricanes of life - but no matter how strong or beautiful, the carvings stay forever. This IS Broken Home. 
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                   Sexual Abuse: A 'Web' Like No Other

Sexual Abuse is just that - it is a spider web that blocks your vision and catches you like no other. It is a loss of dignity and control. It is the unfolding of the darkness that leaves you questioning the bitter truths of life: why me?; am I alone?; where is the Universe that loves me and was supposed to protect me?; where are the people in my life who were suppose to protect me?; why did no one speak up for me?; all these questions and yet no answers...

Sexual Abuse is an internalization of agony, anger, betrayal & loss of one's dignity. We move on in life after painful incidents take our breath away but with Sexual Abuse it is different.
​Because of the stigma that follows and incapability to talk to someone about it, it is pushed deeper and deeper into the victim's veins.

Women feel "no one will believe me" so why bother talking about it? It gets even worse if the sexual abuser is a family member or a relative. Burying this dark night deep into the depths of silence, suppressing emotions and carrying on with life as if nothing had happened, is a perfect recipe for another friend to follow.

But unlike women, who have sisters or friends or ultimately spouse to share their agony with, that is NOT the case with men.

Men have it even worse - due to societal roles and strict paradigms of "what-it-means-to-be-a-man," they are only left with one option - to keep silence; to never ever talk about their rape or sexual incest. After all, men are not supposed to cry, right?

The agony of maintaining the masculine image while dealing with deep depths of depression and internal anger becomes like a fight within. On one hand, a man is supposed to be "strong and never cry" and yet, the society forgets that men too are human beings with emotions, thoughts, dignity, respect and require the same developmental care as a woman in growing years (and on wards).

So, now what? What is the solution? This friend has visited you? It helped you find strength and teach you some solid coping mechanisms. It taught you what it really, literally, means to go on and survive this life you have been given.

So, from that perspective, can we make some peace today? It is not Sexual Abuse that is your enemy - it is the abuser who you hate and loathe beyond words can describe. And this is a very powerful statement - read it again and again till you get it. So, make peace with your friend today and as far as your abuser goes, let the Universe handle it.

To get out of this web, you will need solid vision. Have you ever wondered what is the point of a spider web? The web is created to catch the prey as well as the mate. What a contrasting difference! Whereas "prey" carries an energy of victim-hood, the "mate" or "mating" carries an energy of birth - life or the Universe trying to express itself through a beautiful, new creation.

Sexual Abuse, my dear, is a spider web - you can either be its prey or join hands with the Universe and dance in a mating dance with it. Become the Universe's mate and see the wonders of your life unfold like never before! The Universe always, always, always, brings back everything to equilibrium - let the Universe handle your abuser. As for your friend, Sexual Abuse, who taught you so much, today, you can breathe deep and say, finally, you are at peace with it.
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Obesity - The Warmest Blanket Ever

If Sexual Abuse is a cold-night, then Obesity is the warmest, softest, safest blanket ever. Because they both are inter-linked and connected, Obesity usually follows Sexual Abuse.

Through feelings of shame, loss of dignity & self-worth, loss of control, one starts binging on food. This is because the person feels that it is something they have 'control' over. As the person gains weight, they feel safer thinking that now no one will find me attractive and hence, I am safe from any sexual abuse that could have come my way otherwise. 

Now you understand so let's ponder a little deeper: is there a high cost to this 'blanket' you are carrying?

The time has come now, to ask yourself this question: is there a cost to this warm blanket that I have kept on for so many years?; Is it worth it?; Is it still serving me?; Or is it taking away joy/experiences from my life that I rightfully deserve?.

And most of all, ask yourself - In exchange for this 'warm blanket,' what all have I sacrificed? Love? Romance? Self-care? Self-love? Self-worth? Confidence? Good eating habits? Peaceful sleep? Vulnerability? Peace? 

Obesity served you well - and it did. But now, your situation has changed. You are no longer in danger. Nobody is 'coming to get you'. You are in charge and you know how to protect yourself now.

Therefore, Obesity..your friend, is no longer needed. To begin a new journey, a new life - you need to begin a 'new you' first. Is Obesity still needed? No.

When was the last time you looked at your body and thanked it for what it does for you everyday? When was the last time you appreciated what your physical vessel does for you each and every day even though you have drained your body of its energy, its dignity and its true form? 

Ask yourself all these questions today - for this is the true definition of health; feeling good inside first. And let today be the day you say bye to your dear friend who took care of you but you no longer need the support. Say bye to Obesity. 
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                              Cancer - The Time Spiral

Cancer is all that which is wordless, nameless and formless. What? Formless? How? You wonder.

Cancer is the residue left behind from the emotions caused by the events in your life that you couldn't deal with; all your 'coping mechanisms' coming to surface full force.

It is a paradigm shift in the ordinary - to bring you self-awareness and move you to a new level. When all those feelings of betrayal, hurt, pain, shame, guilt, sorrow, grief, lack... become too much for the body to handle beyond its scope, something needs to change and that too, change very fast. It is the bursting of the volcano inside of you to remind you that you matter and no one else comes first now.  

It is all the suppressed emotions, finally, swinging in harmony with the active emotions of your life - dying to bring forth the ultimate healing to its patient. Therefore, Cancer is the 'brakes' to what all has been going on - a high call of the Highest Order from the Heavens of this Earth calling out your name and saying, 'STOP! put the brakes on. All toxic people & habits got to go.... NOW.'

Therefore, Cancer is a spiral - it is a journey. Even when you feel you are going nowhere or backwards, the truth is you are going somewhere and upwards. It is a 'time spiral;' all that childhood pain and the lack of love, dignity & worth crumbled up together in a solid mass - now waiting to come out & heal you ultimately.

This is what  Cancer is - a true blessing. It cannot be healed by some drugs or some 'magic pill' - it needs you to now keep quiet and listen. Listen to what? Listen to the pleas and throbbing of the Universe - the messages you were 'too-busy' to hear but now that you are cornered, you have nowhere to go but listen. Silence. Keep quiet. Let Cancer show you who is who in your life and who needs to be thrown in garbage - right away. Let Cancer show you what your mistakes are - what your toxic habits are. And listen. Listen and keep quiet. Silence. 

You say, 'but I healed with the 'magic pill'! Ya, you did heal with the 'magic pill' but Cancer came back, didn't it? I told you so many times, its a loyal friend. It does not leave you until you....listen. Listen to it. 

So, ask yourself, who are the toxic people in my life that should have been thrown away long time ago? What are my toxic habits that I am responsible for? Let today be the day you make peace with Cancer - thank it & energetically, let it go. Love yourself enough to realize Cancer is your true, loyal friend and not your enemy. It is the toxic people & your toxic habits in your life that are the dis-eases. Cancer is a remedy - a messenger of sorts.
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                            Saying Goodbye to Your Dear Friends

Now the time has come when you must wake-up and say goodbye to these friends - whether 1 or all 4 have accompanied you on this journey we call life. This article has shown you how each friend has helped you in their own way - from teaching you strength to keeping you warm to asking you to let go of all toxic people & habits in your life. That's mighty generous of these friends! Thank them and cherish them; but let them go. 

This article has also shown you what questions you need to ponder upon and ask yourself now. It is time to let go of your victim-hood and rise up as Earth & sacred Nature need you - this is the greatest purpose we all have when we come here - to help clean the Earth & reduce the suffering of countless animals and beings. Wake-up now - for you have found your purpose and as you go out into the world, thank these friends of yours for giving you the courage, the wisdom & the heart to care for something much more sacred than your own life. 

And none of this 'purpose' is possible unless you find your self-worth first. How is self-worth found? By taking care of ourselves like we had always deserved. So, start eating well. Sleep well. Take care of your physical vessel by incorporating good, plant based foods, hydration, rest, meditation and connecting with Nature. 

So, tell me, which friend have you kept for so long? Which ones are you going to let go today? Which friend has taught you the most? And which friend are you still struggling to love?
​Tell me about it - write to me. I want to know. Let it out & let it go like a balloon in thin air. 

With all this to think about, I end this healing article & leave you with a lasting thought from the great, eternal poet Rumi.

-Somyata

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