You lost a loved one & now are soaking in despair, ready to burn in fire. But, you haven't understood what happened. Read to know what REALLY happened.
The Beginning of Your Narrative: Who died?
This is a brilliant tragedy I tell you; the one that happened to you: losing a loved one. And before we move on any further with this narrative, I want to make something clear - this article is not about losing just anyone you loved. It is about losing that someone who was your heart and soul. That one being who made this very troubled life of yours bearable or the one who gave you the feeling of the 'safety net' against the unpredictable nature of the world.
Let me explain...It is the difference in this context that matters.
The difference between who your Heart believes someone to be your mother/father versus who really is your biological parent.
The difference between THAT one dog in the pack versus all your dearest, beloved dogs.
The difference between who your Heart really fell for, against all odds versus all your wonderful, loving exes/spouse.
The difference between THAT one sibling or cousin or friend you resonate with versus your other siblings.
The difference between THAT stranger who walked in your life when you were sinking, took you up, guided you, saved you versus all the others who are just ordinary 'come-and-go.'
The difference between THAT grandparent who embraced you and gave you life versus your biological parents.
The difference between your Beloved verses Loved one. It could be a dog, a grandparent, a friend or spouse...anyone who was your Heart and Soul.
I think you get the point. In life, we actually only love very few people but even out of this few number, only 2-3 make the top list, those that are fully approved by our Heart. AND from this list, there is the greatest gem of your life, your oxygen, your yearning, and now you have lost this Beloved.
How will you make it now? Will you continue? Where will you go? Who is going to listen to you? Do you matter?
All these questions...Oh my God! How will you make it? Where will you go? What will become of you? What will you do?
The Perceived Notion - Two Flames Burning Together
"We were always together and we did everything together. And even when life separated us, our hearts were so connected that we could override time and space and were strongly connected to each other telepathically.
All. The. Time." said the Candle.
The Candle continued, "We always knew where and what the other beloved was doing. Life happened. Changes took place.
I grew up. I got busier. I went here and there.
We lost touch at times but we always resonated back to each other as if no time had passed and no life had moved."
"You mean Destiny?" asked the Hand.
Candle replied, "Yes...yes...Destiny. I started working a lot and well...life became so hectic. Ups and downs but still...we managed to be one...even if we were both burning."
You have felt this way, haven't you? No matter what life threw between you both, that sacred, unbridled connectivity was never lost. And you were confident that it was permanent. It would stay forever.
In fact, you delighted in the knowing that you are one of the lucky few who have been given this cherished gift in life: the gift that many would want but only can dream of. After all, how many can say they have such a timeless bond with someone in their life?
Hmmm....not many. But you,.......... you could. With full gusto, with full certainty. How lucky! How blessed! Together, you were both one burning flame of Light. But look closely, do two flames ever really become one? No. Both are burning together but they are not one. Both have their own time and destiny to fulfill and so it is.
Death of Certainty: When One Candle Starts to Flicker
"I do not know what happened. It was like suddenly everything started to change. There was no solid grounds of predictability. One day was good and the other was bad. We did everything to stay together as much as possible and to stay as positive as we could, even after knowing the Truth. It was sudden, very sudden." Candle said in absolute bewilderment.
"Perplexed?," asked the Hand.
"Yes. I couldn't believe it. Like...what happened? All of a sudden....this situation? Didn't make sense....Weakness, debilitating pain, loss of hope, crumbling limbs, no appetite, unable to eat, talk, walk, smile....just no life. Horrible. Just horrible. What happened? How could that be? And that too...so fast?" cried the Candle as tears washed down the memory lane.
"You mean, just melting away...slowly?," inquired the Hand.
"Yes! That's what it felt like...Life melting away. Slowly yet fast." Candle spoke.
"Flickering. Flickering, it is." answered the Hand.
When the other one starts to flicker, you get scared. You know the Truth; that the time has come.
The chatter, the smiles, the eating together, the angry moments, the ups and downs, the money, the no-money, the dilemmas, the assurances, the touch of your beloved, the essence, the smell, the Love - the perfect quintessential journey is about to come to an end.
YOU are hanging on to the cliff with your Sacred Basket of Jewels. Everything you thought was going to last is now hanging on at the edge of the rocky cliff. The winds of life are turbulent; they don't care for they can come anytime and blow away everything you cherish - including the flickering Candle.
And there you are - wrapped in denial and fear. You still think you can get out of this situation, don't you? That you can make it better somehow for yourself and your Beloved? That you have the power to do it all and know it all.
How mighty you are! You think you can 'lock-in' certainty and permanence. Well, we will see.
The Fast Approaching Hurricane & The Dying Candle
"And suddenly there was no hope. It was like my Beloved was at the death's door. We had reached a point-of-no-return." cried the Candle.
"So, nothing worked. Not even your grand Love?," asked the Hand.
"No, nothing worked. Everything failed. Even my timeless, grand Love." sobbed the Candle.
The turbulent winds are coming fast at you. But there is worse news - it has become into a deadly hurricane. And nothing works in the chaos of hurricanes. When a hurricane is about to arrive, it is always about wrapping things up and finding safety. It is about moving fast, doing fast and rushing fast. It is about wrapping things up; fast.
And who will live on and who will be safe and continue with life is a decision of Nature. NO human has ever been able to decide this for Nature and no human will ever be given this much importance to decide who goes and who stays in the hurricanes of life.
Have you ever seen a Candle burn in hurricane? It is impossible. NO candle can stay lit in a hurricane. The turbulent winds, the down pouring of heavy rains, the debris, the chaos of Nature - all of these will never allow a Candle to be lit and stay lit.
So how can any candle burn in a hurricane? Why struggle to stay lit? Let yourself go in this hurricane. You are not to stay lit. You are to die now. Just immediately. You are not required to go out and do this or that for anyone or the world. The world has been doing just fine without you, and will continue to do fine without you. So, let yourself go. Let your Light be out since that is what's needed to survive this hurricane. Besides, not every Candle on this Earth is needed to Light the world. Your time will come later to help the world; but not now.
Oh yes!..and one more thing. What's with putting so much pressure on the other fragile, flickering Soul?
It was getting dimmer anyways; let it die.
The Sacred Thread of Pain: One Light Here, One Light There
"After my Beloved died, I didn't know what to do...where to go. What will become of me now? How will I survive this? The pain felt like as if someone had put me in scorching fire. I felt like I was the one burning." cried the Candle.
"You felt dead." said the Hand.
"Yes. I felt dead." confirmed the Candle. The Candle continued, "In the hurricane, I lost my home, my belongings, my memories, my keepsakes, my jewels!"
"But you found your longings!," said the Hand.
What happened? What did you lose? You lost your belongings? You lost your home? But what does this mean? The Beloved is now gone and you feel the quintessential journey is now over. But what was it that made this one being so important? Love?
How many Fools in your life have told you they love you? From parents to siblings to relatives to anyone who joined your journey - so many must have said this word we call 'love.' But yet, despite it all, you never resonated with them. Rather, they have given you nothing but pain and more and more heartache. So, then what is it that makes this one being so special?
Look back at your journey and there you will find the answer. You will realize this gift was that of understanding; the most divine gift you both shared between your space. When no one could understand you, you ran to this loved one. When you needed guidance or assurance, it was this same loved one. When you needed that healing touch, it was the same loved one. When you needed hope, it was the same loved one you ran to.
You both burned and lighted each other. It was a thread of pain that connected you both - otherwise your bond would not be this strong. Something missing in you was fulfilled by this Beloved and vice versa.
We find our Center in our home. When you needed to find your Center, you went to this loved one. Therefore, the loved one became your home. You resided deeply in each other; crossing all time and space. The loved one gave you the sense of belonging. Along with this, all other gifts followed: trust, safety, respect, love, care and assurance. These were the jewels in your basket.
So, in your Sacred Basket of Jewels, even though the Candle has gone out but can you say the hurricane really took away everything else? Maybe the hurricane came to take away what you no longer needed: the old collections, the artificial jewels, the old home, the outdated belongings but you still have the real jewels with you. That no one can take away.
AND most of all...
You found your longings! And that, my dear, is your Light. This Light will guide you through he dark tunnel. This longing is your new lantern that will help navigate you through this long, arduous tunnel.
Yes! Now that you are empty, lost and in the dark, you are going to find what you really long for; so that you can start the journey and build yourself a new, beautiful home.
Now the true faces of everyone in your life are about to come out so you will have to accept the bitter truth of many
let-downs and then rejoice, as your life starts clearing up even more. And no, you don't have to do a thing. Universe's Hand will take care of all the details to show you who's who in your life and who deserves to be promoted, demoted or simply just thrown out completely. Just hold on tight - as realities starts unfolding, you are to thank the loving Universe and go with the flow. Nothing else is needed on from your side. Throw away these Fools that you had collected over time, even if you are dying inside slowly. Die alone. But do not try to repaint the truth of the people in your life as Universe's Hand reveals them to you, one by one.
This tragedy, this hurricane came to clear your path so that the new life that is meant for you can be birthed. And this new path is the one you are to walk alone; not with all the parasites hanging onto your skin. Where you are going now, you will no longer need these people in your life. Let them go. Clear away everything that you no longer need and this, my dear, was the point of this hurricane, this brilliant tragedy.
All you need is in you - your strength and your Beloved. You are in a dark tunnel and the tunnel is very narrow. The diameter of the tunnel is you, yourself and your willpower. There is very little light peeking through - but it is enough to get you by. You are to hold yourself tight while letting life and its new blessings guide your next step. But yes, the time in this dark tunnel is tough. BUT at the end of the tunnel is your new home.
Two Candles Still Burning...
Did you know that if you light two candles at the same time, both will burn at different rate?
We come from somewhere and we go somewhere. Everything is energy and energy can never be created nor destroyed. It can only be reborn into something new, fresh and beautiful again. Everything in this Universe is reborn - observe Nature and you will see. Only fools can doubt what the Truth is. An apple that drops from the tree becomes a seed again. A dead body becomes dust again, only to mix with Nature and again, take birth somewhere in a new form. How this happens nobody can explain as only Nature holds the grand secret.
Therefore, you Beloved too has gone somewhere, only to be reborn again. A different burn time than you...but still very alive and well. Still blossoming and still living - just not on Earth but somewhere better; floating through time and space, free from Earth's burdens and pains.
And as for you, perhaps this all has been thoroughly planned by the Universe along with your loved one's Soul? Perhaps at this crucial point in your life, you needed to be lost, died and reborn? Perhaps you needed to see the truth about everyone in your life so far and what better way then by taking away your Center? What better way then to take away your Home? And while like a maniac you are trying to find your lost jewels in the debris of the hurricane, you realize those were all artificial jewels! All the jewels you truly loved and cherished are still in you...and will always be within you.
Do not die while you are left here alone by this brilliant tragedy. Do not give in to addictions or toxic people in your life. That was never the point. Do not sit and lose your health and manifest sickness in your life. Do not lose your beauty in your grief. Do not befriend alcohol, drugs, clubs, sick food, or any other toxic habit. Most of all, do not befriend toxic people in your life - let them GO!
Get up and build beauty in your life so you can be a blessing to Earth. When will you embrace your Higher Purpose? When will you help pick up the plastic on the streets? When do you speak up for the slaughtering of innocent animals killed for food? When will you plant more trees? When will you teach others what it means to live and let live?
When will you realize that even before your Beloved, it was mother Earth who loved and nurtured you and that even now, she is calling your name? That she is ready to take you back and rebirth you? That in fact, it was her who gave you your loved one?
Embrace your solitude and go hug a tree - find your answers in its wisdom and listen to its suffering. Perhaps, then you will realize that everything is a blessing and that there is more for you to do and contribute then just give up now. Speak up for the trees. The animals of this world. The oceans. The sky and the mountains. Speak up for them. These are the most sacred beings; for in them your Beloved resides. That is where our loved ones go and merge; with the purest of Souls. And who can be more pure then the animals of slaughterhouses? Or those oceans being filled with toxic waste?
So every time you speak up for Nature, its sacred animals and the beauty of this Earth, remember you are speaking up for your Beloved. So, get up! Be a warrior of Light. You are left here coz you are very needed. Find meaningfulness in your actions and words. Plant a tree in your Beloved's honor. Rescue a shelter animal or donate in your Beloved's name. Stop doing low vibration acts of eating animals - give it up now, in your Beloved's honor.
Create. Give breath to Life. And that's how you will find yourself again- when you create and give Life to others.
Find meaning in life and that will take you straight to your Home, your Center, your Beloved.
Do not die in your pain. Do not kill yourself while still alive. Do not waste your time on Earth.
Because then the question becomes - Who died? And who is living?
Who died? You died or your Beloved? And who is still living? Did you die or your Beloved?
Who died? WHO?
And now, a beautiful Native American prayer for those in grief.
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